Thoughts on Love

Five years ago I was newly divorced and homeless. I had to start my life all over again. One of the biggest obstacles I faced at that time was finding an apartment. Actually, finding it was not the problem, having the funds to rent it was another story. I have lived in other countries and it is pretty straight forward, but in France (of course!) it's very difficult. The agencies stipulate you must have three times the rent—which most couples will just about be able to cover—so the agency/proprietor will not get stiffed. Basically if you look good on paper then you're in.

Read More
It's Not All About Hustle

Hustle. It seems to be le mot du jour. At the beginning of the year it popped up in every feed or motivational piece I saw and it ain't showing signs of abating yet. Then again, The New Year is always like that. Subscribe to my mailing list, take this course, you are guaranteed to succeed if you give me $140, etc, etc. It's everywhere.

Read More
Driving in France

If ever I was to be in a crowded room and asked the question, “Tell us a little-known fact about yourself,” I would reply, embarrassingly, I don't have a driver’s license. I am very aware that many people would say, “Oh, but you live in Paris and don't need one,” or, “It's probably just expired and it's a simple case of just some formal paperwork.” The polite response on my part would be, “Heck no, bro, I've never had a full driver’s license in my life!”

Read More
2015: Reflections

I'll dispense with the faux I don't normally do a summary of the year, but... or, well, that's another year in the books... and just write down a few things that stood out for whatever reason in 2015. It was a year of two halves. Like two sides of the same coin, one shiny, one dark and smudged. Like the Harvey Two-Face character—Aaron Eckhart-style in The Dark Knight!

Read More
Sobriety: Five Years On

Every year this day brings different emotions and stages. Year one was awe. As in, I seriously cannot believe I didn't drink a drop of alcohol in 365 days. It's a miracle!

Year two brought pride. You're really doing this dude and life is super-sweet.

Year three was all about being comfortable in my own skin and the beginning of deep healing from past wrongs.

Year four was about mentorship and taking addicts under my wing in an attempt to say, Hey, this is totally doable, don't freak out. Take it one day at a time.

So what can be said of year five. Two words: Survivor's Guilt.

Read More
Malcolm McLoughlin Comment
Pondering the Imponderable

It always starts with the email alert. Deftones/Pearl Jam/Tool are playing in London/Paris. The pulse quickens, the calendar is checked, finances consulted, and a reminder set on the phone for the opening morning of ticket sales. If it's a small venue, the morning is usually taken off work cause the tickets will disappear fast! The run-up to the ticket scramble—normally three to four weeks—is passed checking out what the band have been doing on the road recently, usually in the USA. Are they playing any new stuff? Is there an album coming out? Who will the support act be? Texts and tweets are sent to other fans and the build-up has already begun.

Read More
Time to Run

This past summer, I did less running than I normally do. It was for reasons that I've written about here before. If I'm being honest, summer is not actually my favorite time of the year to train anyway. I usually train through the Winter in order to peak for races in spring. In fact, I had probably one of the best racing seasons ever this year with a solid effort in a prestigious 50-miler and a win in a 6-hour race. The thing about putting in the effort over the winter and then reaping the rewards in races is this: you kind of feel like you deserve a reward after it all.

Read More
Part Six: Surround Yourself with Passionate People

"There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living."

Nelson Mandela.

The sixth and final part of Exploring the Intersection of Endurance and Creativity.

Being around passionate people is infectious. It doesn't matter what their passion is for, it's the level of passion that counts. It is also important to let people into what you are doing. It provides not only encouragement but the opportunity for constructive criticism and feedback.

Read More